Jealous Maid of Honor was Practically Green
A bride-to-be’s wedding planning was overshadowed by the outrageous behavior of her Maid of Honor (MOH), as detailed in a popular Reddit thread. The story has captured the attention of many, sparking conversations about friendship, jealousy, and wedding etiquette.
“My friend got married some time ago, and I think it has been long enough that I can post about her absolutely awful maid of honor,” the OP, NotAnotherCleric, began. The bride (25) was excited to get engaged and immediately asked her best friend to be her Maid of Honor. Initially, the MOH (25) seemed thrilled and was very involved in the early planning stages. However, as other members of the bridal party, including the OP, were asked to join, the MOH’s true colors began to show.
The drama started at the dress-shopping appointment. The OP recounted, “While she was talking to the dress consultant, the MOH walked up to us and started the conversation with, ‘Well, I was supposed to get married first, but here we are.'”
This comment set the tone for the MOH’s behavior, which was marked by jealousy and a need for control. Despite this, the bride found her perfect dress, though the MOH was visibly upset and complained that the dress shopping process was too quick and didn’t go as she had planned.
Following the dress appointment, the bridal party went to lunch to celebrate. However, the MOH’s negative attitude persisted. She brought out a MOH guide from Etsy and began going through a checklist, asserting her control over the budget and other wedding details. “Apparently there were a lot of conversations like that between the bride and MOH. Because the MOH is in charge of the budget said no one ever,” the OP noted sarcastically.
The bachelorette party planning was another contentious issue. The bride wanted a themed bar crawl in a nearby historical city, but the MOH insisted on inviting the bride’s mom as a designated driver, despite the city being walkable. The MOH also suggested staying in a less safe area outside the city and taking the bus, which the other bridesmaids opposed. After much debate, the group voted for a better location, but the MOH continued to drag her feet in providing her share of the funds, causing them to lose their reservation.
In the end, the bridal party managed to secure another hotel, but the MOH’s delay increased the cost per person. “The MOH drags her feet again, the bride asks her what the problem is and the MOH says she has her tattoo fund ready, but not the hotel fund,” the OP wrote. This caused further strain as the MOH prioritized getting matching tattoos over paying for the hotel.
The bridal party eventually split into two Discord groups to avoid upsetting the MOH with bachelorette party discussions. Meanwhile, the bride received her engagement photos, which the MOH criticized by suggesting editing out the groom’s bald spot, further revealing her insensitivity and jealousy.
During one of the final meet-ups to paint wooden flowers for the centerpieces, the MOH arrived two hours late and complained about her boyfriend not proposing with his mom’s ring, which she described as ugly and dated. This behavior only added to the tension, especially since the ring resembled another bridesmaid’s wedding set.
Despite all the drama, the wedding day went smoothly, though the bridal party was prepared for the MOH’s boyfriend to propose during the event. Fortunately, this did not happen. The bride’s relationship with the MOH remained strained, with the MOH never offering a sincere apology. The closest she came was after her own engagement when she remarked, “Now I understand the stress you were going through,” referring only to the wedding planning process.
Reddit users were quick to share their thoughts on the situation. One user commented, “Uffda. I’m glad that the bride has people who actually support her in her life. The MOH sounds like she needs a reality check.” Another user wrote, “I would have pulled the bride aside and told her I have your back, do you want me to run her out of here?”
Many were baffled by the bride’s tolerance of the MOH’s behavior. “This kind of story infuriates me. Why do people put up with this crap? Do they not realize they can tell people to piss off?” another user questioned.
One user pointed out the potential for a surprise proposal during the ceremony, saying, “Dude. Extremely good intuition, on being ready for the surprise proposal during the ceremony! Glad it didn’t happen, but holy shit, it absolutely could have.”
Other users shared similar experiences with jealous and difficult MOHs. One commented, “NGL when I saw the title, I thought you might be one of my bridesmaids going off about my sister, who was my MOH. She was not quite as bad as the MOH you’re describing, but there was definitely envy about how I was getting married first.”
Another shared, “My MOH was asking my vendors, at the wedding and reception, their prices and if they’d be willing to travel to the city she was getting married in the following year. I found out later from my other bridesmaids that she made comments to them throughout the day that her wedding was going to be ‘so much better than this one.'”
The thread highlighted a common theme: weddings often strain long-term friendships, revealing true colors and sometimes leading to irreparable damage. One user summed it up well: “So many stories of longtime friendships getting strained by weddings. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends with someone if they’re just going to be a negative energy the entire time. The MOH showed her true colors and that their friendship wasn’t valuable to her if she wasn’t the star.”
Ultimately, the bride managed to have a beautiful wedding day, but at the cost of her friendship with the MOH. The experience serves as a cautionary tale for anyone dealing with jealousy and pettiness in their wedding party. It’s essential to set boundaries and prioritize supportive, positive relationships during such a significant life event.
