While it’s up to the bride to introduce the members of her bridal party to one another, it will sure lower her stress levels to know that her maid of honor is making an extra effort to ease the process. Whether you already know every one of your fellow bridesmaids or have only met a few, it’s critical that you all get acquainted prior to the big day. Remember that you’re the ringleader of this girl group, so the better you get to know each bridesmaid, the easier to handle they’ll be. You’ll also be needing their help along the way with such things as planning the bridal shower and bachelorette party, so developing a friendly relationship is imperative. To help you do just that, we’ve listed four methods to get the lines of communication flowing and bonds forming.
1. Start a Group Text
As maid of honor, the first step you should take is to start a group text chain with your fellow bridesmaids. While the bride may have already started her own thread with you all, it’s important to have a separate thread that she is not included in to discuss bridal shower and bachelorette party planning. This is also a great way to introduce yourself to the group and open all lines of communication. As maid of honor you want to ensure that you are always available to discuss ideas and establish that you are the go-to girl for any issues. Most importantly, this bridesmaids only chat will take the pressure off the bride to answer all wedding-related questions, allowing her more time to plan for her big day.
UPDATE (3/23/19): Being the modern MOHs that we are, we’re always looking for new and improved ways to make your time as maid of honor as stress-free as possible. That’s why we were super excited to learn about The Bridesmaid App, an all-in-one, totally free platform that allows you to “communicate, collaborate, and coordinate” with the rest of the bridal party. Instead of sorting through tons of group messages or chain emails, simply invite your fellow bridesmaids to join your wedding group and keep all communication in one place! To learn more about this awesome app, check out their website or follow their Instagram (available for download on IOS and Android).
2. Bridesmaid Dress Shopping
Getting the bridal party together is the next step of the introduction process and shopping for dresses is the perfect opportunity for the girls to meet face to face for the first time. Help get all of the girls together at once by discussing possible dates and times with the bridesmaids in your separate chat, only bringing in the bride to make the final decision. While there is always a chance for some initial awkwardness, the excitement of wedding planning will surely smooth any stiffness away. As maid of honor, this is a chance for you observe how the girls interact with one another, keeping an eye out for a possible problem child or drama queen. Getting a good read on each member of the bridal party will mitigate the need to involve the bride in each and every issue that may arise.
3. Girls Night Out
Show your bride how important this role is to you by setting up a get-together that isn’t entirely centered around the wedding. Whether it be a night out for dinner and drinks or a day trip to a local winery, get the bride and her maids together for a relaxing girls gathering. This is a wonderful way to bond with your fellow bridesmaids in a comfortable setting and to give your bride a break from the stress of wedding planning. While there is bound to be some wedding talk along the way, be sure to encourage other topics of conversation so all the girls have an opportunity to open up. Taking this extra step to get the bridal party more comfortable with one another will not only mean the world to your bride, but make wedding day all the more fun for everyone involved.
4. Bachelorette Games
At this point all of the bridesmaids should be fairly familiar with one another, so this is just an added bonus to make memories along the way. And if for some reason there is a bridesmaid or two that hasn’t been introduced to the group just yet, these games are a great way to break the ice. Some of our favorites include two truths and a lie, drink if, never have I ever and a bachelorette-themed scavenger hunt. If these seem a bit too cliche for your liking, consider bringing along some fun group card games like cards against humanity or what do you meme? instead. Trust us when we say you’ll learn a lot about your fellow bridesmaids after a weekend of these hilarious games.